14 May 2013

Father's day special, part II : The perfect father

I know, you know, nothing's perfect. Mothers are not perfect and fathers are not perfect either. But I know one father, Dr. Kelly Flanagan, a licensed clinical psychologist, that looks perfect on paper. That is because he put in writing a very touching letter to his daughter:

A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you
Your eternally interested guy,

This may seem a little bit idealistic but it is also the fatherly love every girl would like to have.
Although nothing is perfect, the love we give our children should be close to perfect and most important, unconditional.

You can read the complete letter here and also the interesting conversation built around it (290+ comments).

Do you like the letter?



  1. Loove it! A lot! Thanks for sharing!

  2. I am very happy you liked it. Every little pleasure I bring to one of my readers shows me I am on the right track with what I'm trying to build here.
    Thanks for the comment. It means a lot to me.